Random Goober thoughts
Published on April 7, 2004 By Michemily In Misc
I'm starting to think like a linguist with all the things I'm learning from my Linguistics classes - I heard this little kid talking to his mom, and I thought, "Wow, he's got his auxiliaries already. Is he that old?" I'm also noticing a lot of backchanneling - it's pretty interesting, but making it a lot different for me when responding to people in conversations. I've noticed that I get really sick of giving backchannels to one of my friends because she talks sooo much at the end of the school day when I just want to rest on the drive home. Also, I have tried NOT giving backchannels to see people's reactions - it's hilarious. They say, "Are you listening?" "Michelle?" or they just repeat what they just said. When Stacy and I were at McDonald's, the drive-up lady never said "Uh-huh" or "Yeah" or "Okay" or even repeated what Stacy ordered, so Stacy started all over again, and finally the lady said, "I heard you." So, I would challenge you to try not giving backchannels at least once - in a conversation, if you are mainly the listener and not the speaker, refrain from nodding or saying, "Yes" or "Okay" or "Uh-huh" or "Go on" and see what happens!
Comments
on Apr 07, 2004
Yo, I like your blog. Its fresh.

I understand what you are saying about people who dont listen actively. Whenever someone tries to explain something to me, its important i repeat what they have explained as i understand it... otherwise, someone wil stuff something up, communication is very essential, and there aren't many people who can do it well!!!!!

Ayway.. keep it goin...

BAM!!!
on Apr 08, 2004
Thanks. I'm glad you liked it.
on Apr 08, 2004
I do it to my kids all the time, and they accuse me of not listening too. Just because I don't feel that I have anything to add, doesn't mean I'm not paying attention!